25 Things NOT to Say to Believing Loved Ones

There are some common phrases that people who’ve left the Church say to believing love ones that are very painful, even if they’re well-meaning. Once you’ve left the Church, you often want to share what you’ve learned with others. Here’s a list of 25 things NOT to say to believing loved ones and what TO say instead. Everyone wants to be respected and validated.

Left the Church? 25 Things NOT to Say to a Believing Loved One (& what to say instead)

If you are leaving or have left the Church and want to preserve your relationships, remember to respect the agency, emotions, and faith of your believing family members.
A week and a half ago I published a guest post on By Common Consent titled “25 things NOT to say to a loved one leaving the faith (and what to say instead).” The post sparked some great discussion among commenters on the blog and on social media. Some of the critiques or concerns about the article echoed themes similar to the following reader comments: