How To Handle Your Child's First Crush: Studio 5
1) Watch for signs
First crushes generally happen in elementary school between 5-10 years old. Even if your child doesn't tell you directly that they have a crush, you might see the signs: giggling with friends, being mean to or teasing the child they like, or planning a special gift.
2) Get curious
This is a great opportunity to understand more about your child and to begin help them explore their preferences and values. Ask your child open ended questions like: "Tell me more about Kate..." "How does John feel about you?" or "What is it that makes her special to you?"
3) Never tease
Feelings of affection are the beginnings of attraction that will lead to meaningful relationships in the future. Talk about feelings of infatuation in a positive light, as a wonderful thing. Never tease or make fun of your child's crush.
4) Set boundaries
Your child's first crush is a great time to start a dialogue about appropriate physical and emotional boundaries, especially if your child is in older elementary school. Discussions on showing physical affection, spending time together, texting are all important things to start talking about.
5) Soothe hurt feelings
When first crushes are not reciprocated, it can be painful, even for children. This is an opportunity for you to teach your child that they are resilient and can move on after being hurt or disappointed.
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