Ask Julie: I Feel Like a Failure As A Mom And Fiancee

[dropcap]Q:[/dropcap] I am a stay-at-home mom, and lately, I have been feeling like a failure. I feel like I can't do anything right and that everything I do goes unnoticed. I have a wonderful fiance, who works hard to take care of our family and who loves me very much, but the problem lies with me. I can't express my feelings to him. I have so much guilt inside of me: I feel guilty when I need money and my fiance gives it to me. I feel guilty if he comes home and the house isn't spotless, even when the baby was a handful. I feel guilty if I take time for myself or if we go out without the baby. I feel guilty when the little one cries or throws tantrums when my fiance is at home, because I am supposed to be a good mother and a good housekeeper and a good fiancee, but I don't feel like I am. I am a failure at everything, and I am just so sick of crying everyday. How do I get past this? Please, please help me.[dropcap]A:[/dropcap] Thanks for your email. You sure put a lot of pressure on yourself! But who says you have to be a perfect fiancée, house keeper, or good at finances? It sounds like you want to be more than just good at those things, it sounds like you want to be perfect. I wonder if there's something deeper going on, or how you learned to be so hard on yourself. Watch the video for the full answer.Take good care of yourself!Julie Hanks, LCSW

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