How do I cope with the disappointment that motherhood is not what I expected it to be? Ask Dr. Julie Hanks

In this episode I meet with Molly and answer the question, “How do I cope with the disappointment that motherhood is not what I expected it to be?” Molly recently finished her graduate studies and was planning on starting a new job, but has instead found herself as a full-time caregiver to her son who was born with health challenges.

On the one hand, Molly is grateful to have this extra time with her son. On the other hand, she feels disappointed she wasn’t able to start work. Part of her feels unfulfilled, and she’s having a hard time navigating the loss of the life she thought she would have.

Molly is carrying a heavy burden, and it sounds like she needs a little more support so she can focus on her own needs. It’s important for Molly’s needs to be met so she can take the best care of her son and they can both thrive. We discuss ways she can build this support into her life, whether it be joining a mother’s group, volunteering, or working a few hours a week.