How can I talk about modesty to my tween step-daughter without undermining the contradictory thoughts of her mother? Ask Dr. Julie Hanks

In this episode, I sit down with Emma and answer the question, “How can I talk about modesty to my tween step-daughter without undermining the contradictory thoughts of her mother?” Emma views modesty as a broad topic that covers how we think and behave, while her step-daughter’s mom ascribes to stricter dress code rules. They have different opinions, and Emma wants to be respectful of that while also upholding different rules in her own home.

I tell Emma that it’s okay for her step-daughter to have different rules at different houses. Kids are resilient. She and her husband can sit down with their daughter’s mom and her husband to see where each couple can give and take to align on the rules, but there will still be some differences between the two houses. And her step-daughter will be okay as she learns to navigate the differences. The most important thing is that she feels loved at each house.