Looking to Improve Your Health? Try a Little Optimism!
Allow Yourself to Experience DisappointmentdThis may initially seem counterintuitive; optimism is about being happy, right? Yes, but being optimistic doesn't mean you are naive to to reality or deny painful emotions. In fact, I'd say that a good number of people who are generally sad or may be thought of as a "downer" are that way because they haven't properly processed difficult experiences. Give yourself permission to grieve your losses. Neal Pasricha, author of the Webby award winning blog, "1000 Awesome Things," said, "don't force yourself out of the dark spots. Let them be dark, just remind yourself that there are good spots at the end."
Use Failures and Mistakes As Learning OpportunitiesdOne of the hallmark characteristics of an optimist is that he/she is resilient to hardship and is able to effectively recover or bounce back. Every experience can teach you a valuable lesson, and I'd venture to say that we learn more from our failures than we do from our successes. Winston Churchill is quoted as saying, "A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty."
Spend Time With The Right PeopledYou can tell a lot about a person by whom they choose as close friends. Are the people you spend time with always complaining, insulting others, gossiping, and emphasizing all that is wrong in the world? There is certainly a lot to say about all the problems we face, and there is a time and place to voice these complaints, but chronic negative talk is exhausting and can dampen your spirit, especially if you're already feeling low or carrying a heavy burden. Find people who energize, motivate, and inspire you. Even if you find yourself in situations with negative people that you can't avoid (like at work), seek out a church leader, family member, or neighbor who you know you can trust as an ally.
Count Your BlessingsdIt's amazing how simply identifying the positive, beautiful things in our lives can bring light to dark days. Do you have a college degree? What freedoms do you enjoy? Are you in a stable relationship? Is your body in good health? These are just a few questions to ask yourself that may yield positive results to help you realize just how good you've got it. Consider beginning a gratitude journal so you can remember and reflect on your blessings.
Unplug For a BitdReading about current events is a surefire way to be reminded of troubles in the world. I am not suggesting that you cut yourself off from reality to shield yourself from pain, but in our tech age, it's very possible to overload your mind and spirit with bad news. If you find that you're feeling weighed down by these influences, limit the amount of time you spend on certain websites or publications; it's okay to tune out some of the sad stuff.
How has being optimist helped you?