FAQ Series: Ask Dr. Julie Hanks
I’m excited to bring you another FAQ podcast episode! Join me as I sit down with Richie and answer more of your frequently asked questions. Tune in to hear answers to questions like:
How do I stand up for myself with in-laws who want me to be traditional and politically conservative when I am neither of those things?
How can I help my daughters know their worth?
Who am I anymore without children to care for? How do I transition from full-time stay-at-home mom to whatever I am currently?
How can I be a partner to my husband without constantly nagging him to do things?
And more!
Here’s a snippet of our conversation:
Q: How do I find out who I am as an individual? For so long I've been a wife and a mom. How do I even know who I am?
A: I want you to start by asking yourself four questions, and I want you to ask yourself these every day.
1. What am I thinking?
2. What am I feeling?
3. What am I wanting?
4. What am I needing?
Those questions are good clues to discover who you are. We're not used to thinking about our thoughts or feelings. A lot of women I've worked with throughout the years have a hard time identifying what they want and need. A want is a preference, and a need is something you need to survive or thrive.
So I would start there. I would also think back to before you married and had a family. What did you look forward to? What did you dream bout when you were a child or a teen? What got you excited about life? And then bring that back into your life, whether it was dancing or science. Whatever it is. Take a class, read books about that thing. Do the activity.
Bring that passion back into your life, and it'll help remind you of what you used to enjoy and love before you embarked on this journey where you lost yourself.
In this episode, we discuss a book called Fair Play by Eve Rodsky. Fair Play is an excellent resource for couples who want their relationship to be founded in partnership. You can click the link below (affiliate link) to purchase a copy
