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25 Things NOT to Say to Believing Loved Ones
There are some common phrases that people who've left the Church say to believing love ones that are very painful, even if they're well-meaning. Once you've left the Church, you often want to share what you've learned with others. Here's a list of 25 things NOT to say to believing loved ones and what TO say instead. Everyone wants to be respected and validated.
25 Things NOT to Say to a Loved One Leaving the Church
There are some common phrases that believing loved ones say to loved ones leaving the Church that are often hurtful, even when they are said with positive intent. I’ve also worked with many people who have left the Church that long to hear certain thing from their family members.Here are 2 lists: what NOT TO say and TO say to a loved one leaving the Church. There’s an option to download PDF version that you can print out and share.
Assertive and Authentic Communication After Faith Transition: Debrief Society Podcast
If you're struggling to communicate authentically and assertively with loved ones about changes in your faith or religious participation you might enjoy this new Debrief Society podcast interview. Becca and I discuss my new book The Assertiveness Guide for Women and how how questioning your faith or leaving the religious tradition of your family of origin can indicate movement toward a higher level differentiation of self (the ability to be an individual while staying connected to loved ones). We also cover cultural barriers to assertive communication (for LDS women in particular), how to deal with the silent treatment once you've talked to family members about your faith