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Invisible Labor: Valuing the Unseen Contributions of Women
Several months ago, a family member recounted a small but powerful scenario that happened in her Sacrament Meeting. While conducting the meeting, the bishop acknowledged that one of his counselors was not present on the stand; his counselor’s wife was ill and he was sitting in the pews with his children. Interestingly, not once was the man’s spouse acknowledged for sitting alone with her children week after week while her husband sat on the stand. Why? Because women are expected to perform the bulk of the invisible labor required for maintaining relationships.
Healing Aspirational Shame: One Mormon Woman's Journey
It wasn’t until my early teens that I recognized the dilemma that I was facing. I wanted a lot for my life, for my career, for my creative expression. I knew that I wanted to pursue a helping profession and that I wanted to express myself through songwriting and singing. But because I had internalized the message that a woman’s role was to sacrifice for her family, I started believing that my aspirations were not good, and not of God. I was hearing that God wanted me to be a wife and a mother, and I knew that that was true, but I wanted other things for my life, too. I began to wonder and eventually believe that something was wrong with me for having such strong creative desires and educational and professional aspirations. Did I have to choose between having a family and having a career?
Has my Latter-day Saint upbringing impacted my sexuality?
In this podcast episode I talk with Mary and answer the question “Has my Latter-day Saint (LDS) upbringing impacted my sexuality?”
Who's in Charge Here?: At Last She Said It Podcast
I recently got to speak with Cynthia and Susan of the "At Last She Said It" podcast about the topic of authority as it relates to receiving revelation for our lives. In our discussion, we talk about what to do when personal authority and general authority seem to conflict, how to differentiate while still remaining part of the Church community, and how to claim stewardship for our own lives.
25 Things NOT to Say to Believing Loved Ones
There are some common phrases that people who've left the Church say to believing love ones that are very painful, even if they're well-meaning. Once you've left the Church, you often want to share what you've learned with others. Here's a list of 25 things NOT to say to believing loved ones and what TO say instead. Everyone wants to be respected and validated.